Chris Brown and Rihanna. Photo from TheYBF.com
So, if you half pay attention to American pop culture, I’m sure you’ve heard about the Chris Brown/Rihanna fiasco that happened on the night of the Grammy’s. Reportedly, a woman - who sources have identified as Good Girl Gone Bad Rihanna - made a 911 call reporting an assault by her boyfriend, Chris Brown.
As soon as this story broke, people immediately took sides. Radio stations did call-ins, Chris Brown’s stepdad, who Chris publicly accused of abusing his mom, did Access Hollywood and radio interviews - claiming the opposite, and alleging that Brown in fact was the violent one.
Celebrities chimed in with their two cents; some, like rapper, T.I. and actor Terrence Howard who we’ll get to later, chimed in too soon and retracted their two cents shortly thereafter.
The truth of the matter is that noone knows what happened on that night except Chris and Rihanna. I’ve known men who were in abusive relationships at the hands of women - too ashamed to do anything about it. I’ve known women who cried wolf and gotten men arrested who’d never laid a hand on them.
So, I can’t, though I wish I could, travel back in time and be a stitch on the leather seat of that Lamborghini and see what the hell went down. Nor can I say that I haven’t been mad enough at a dude to contemplate going upside his head my damn self; and if I had a little less home-training, I might have.
But, on this, we all can agree, SOMETHING happened. The important question is: what happens now?
What happens now, after you realize you are in a dysfunctional relationship, or a functional one with dysfunctional tendencies? Do you stay or do you go? Do you love or do you leave? Read more…
Tags: abusive relationships, chris and rihanna, chris brown, rihanna, terrence howard
Posted by admin on Nov 19, 2008 in
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Cosmo-Smosmo! Single Women Rule's dating tips put the ball in your court.
God Bless Cosmopolitan Magazine. Hell-bent on helping the single gal land her man.
One article posted recently on Yahoo’s Dating site is by Christie Griffin: “Dating 101: How to be a Total Man-Magnet”.
So I thought it’d be fun if I took the liberty to uh - amend - these rules to a Single Women Rule liking.
Griffin / Cosmo says:
“Dating tip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.”
SWR Dating Tip #1:
Go out in groups of at least six. Maybe sixteen. Larger groups of women may intimidate men and you want to make sure you weed out the weak yellow-bellied ones - so the more of your girls the merrier. You don’t want a guy who’s going to prey on you like an injured wilderbeast that’s fallen behind the herd. If he’s ballsy enough to brave the front-line, then you best believe he can handle Aunt Erma at Thanksgiving dinner.
Okay there was no number two on the version of the article I read, so here’s my own: Repeat number 1. Read more…
Tags: cosmopolitan magazine, dating 101, dating article, man-magnet, single women rule
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A recent Cosmopolitan article by Esther Crain, “How to Have the Talk”, gave us single gals tips for sitting your guy down and getting him to say “yay” or “nay” to exclusivity, moving in, or whatever random relationship issue that you feel is important.
Should you have the talk or take a walk?
To this I say – Hogwash and Fiddle-Fuddle!
My advice is if you have to have THE TALK, then YOU BETTER WALK!
I think, in my humble single opinion, if you have to sit a guy down to get a clue about what he’s feeling about you, to borrow a word from He’s Just Not That Into YOU . . . “He’s just not that into you!”
Why does it have to be that difficult? Call me an old-fashioned girl, but in some aspects I’m a traditionalist. I wish I grew up in the 1950’s when girls got to wear letter jackets and pins and guys still said, “Do you want to go steady?” Read more…
Tags: cosmopolitan, defining relationships, esther crain, relationships