Should you have “The Talk” or take a walk?
This first appeared on SingleWomenRule.com
A recent Cosmopolitan article by Esther Crain, “How to Have the Talk”, gave us single gals tips for sitting your guy down and getting him to say “yay” or “nay” to exclusivity, moving in, or whatever random relationship issue that you feel is important.
Should you have the talk or take a walk?
To this I say – Hogwash and Fiddle-Fuddle!
My advice is if you have to have THE TALK, then YOU BETTER WALK!
I think, in my humble single opinion, if you have to sit a guy down to get a clue about what he’s feeling about you, to borrow a word from He’s Just Not That Into YOU . . . “He’s just not that into you!”
Why does it have to be that difficult? Call me an old-fashioned girl, but in some aspects I’m a traditionalist. I wish I grew up in the 1950’s when girls got to wear letter jackets and pins and guys still said, “Do you want to go steady?”
You knew he wanted you BECAUSE HE SAID IT! You didn’t have to read an article, pick an opportune time or choose your words wisely.
I have a friend who despises this philosophy and thinks it throws us back to a time before we burned our bras and held Tupperware parties, but I think there’s some merit in a man opening his mouth - other than to swallow a beer or eat a buffalo wing or well, never mind.
In today’s society, for some reason men have been allowed to slip into a sloppy dating style. You date a dude for a few months, then voila, he’s upgraded you to girlfriend and you didn’t even know it.
I say this to “The TALK”:
Screw it. Some people may say I am delusional and no relationship has a future unless it’s defined. Partially true, I’m only delusional on third Thursdays between 8 p.m. and 8:37 p.m., and relationships should be defined, but you shouldn’t have to use every word in Webster to do it.
Single women should not be concerned with his agenda unless he clearly articulates it. If you have to pin him down to figure out where he wants to go, you need go. Push pedal to the metal on your own life, and let him figure out how to jump in the car when you hit the roundabout. Don’t pull over and ask him to ride shotgun, especially if he’s articulating through his actions (which always speak louder) that he’s got no idea how to read a map or no clue where he wants to go if he did.
–Keysha Whitaker